Author Archives: Carole Avila

About Carole Avila

Carole Avila is an award winning author in short fiction, memoirs, and poetry. Eve's Amulet, Book 1 and Death House are both published by Black Opal Books. Her non-fiction work, The Long Term Effects of Sexual Abuse, is under contract. When Carole isn't writing, she loves reading, walking, visiting her daughters and grandsons, and enjoys a hot cup of chai tea with a spot of cream.

Little Triggers-Big Affects

We have to keep recreating ourselves, our lives, so that we can be better than what the abuse made us. Continue reading

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Working Hard on Abuse Book

Emotional fatigue is having its way with me as I’ve been working on my non-fiction abuse book. I’m recalling—not for the first time—upsetting experiences and the people who had no qualms about trying to make my life more miserable than … Continue reading

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Therapy today: Bridging gaps

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I was anxious about therapy today. After forwarding J the post I wrote after our last session, I was worried I had done the wrong thing. I sat in a bus shelter on the way to her…

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Your Handmade Donations Help Refugee Children!

My author friend, Sandy Hurtes, started THE MADE-BY-HAND PROJECT to raise funds for child migrants in Europe. Proceeds from the fundraiser will go to Save the Children’s Refugee Child Relief Crisis Fund. Sandy is interested in donations that people have … Continue reading

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3 Ways to Curb Emotional Overeating

My body went through all the classic reasons for being overweight—fat protected me from more abuse as it kept me sexually unappealing. At heart, I believed I didn’t deserve to be slender and beautiful. I didn’t feel worthy enough to be happy. Excess … Continue reading

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Creating Birthdays Worth Celebrating

Birthdays were miserable affairs in my youth, and that carried over into my adulthood. For that reason, this year I want to try something different. I want to proclaim my birthday as something special. Something to celebrate. Insight dawned as … Continue reading

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Abuse – Unhealed Scab or Healthy Scar?

I recently submitted a few micro flash fiction pieces, limited to 101 words each, to a local writing contest and realized that my past once again wheedled its way into my present life through one of my stories. So I … Continue reading

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Eating Feelings

My father died close enough to the holidays which made it easy to justify eating lots of home baked treats, primarily carb laden scones and cookies as I dealt with the emotional experience of loss and grief. All my life, food … Continue reading

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Self-expression Is Therapy

It has been a much longer and harder road to write my book on the long term effects of sexual abuse than I realized, especially since I am including personal accounts that require an emotional connection that I did not allow … Continue reading

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Write It Down & Make it Happen!

Originally posted on Carole Avila – Writing is Breathing:
I think that when we take our thoughts out of our heads and put them into writing or some other form of self-expression, that we will manifest those desires. I selfishly…

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